How to Meditate When Fear Takes Over
Yesterday, on a flight back from San Diego, I had the wonderful opportunity to meditate on…turbulence! With this turbulence, came fear…all sorts of it! Even before we’d taken off on our flight heading back to Colorado, the pilot announced that there would be some “rough skies” ahead. Rough? How about downright roller-coaster!??!!
Have you even encountered fear that took you over so much that you couldn’t think of anything else? Maybe your body was in such a state that you weren’t able to do or think about anything but the object of your fear?
What happens when fear takes over and even our best attempts at stopping it don’t work? How do we work with our mind in frightening or even terrifying moments?
For most of us, we need a PANIC BUTTON or something that we can access easily when we encounter feelings or emotions that are too hard to handle. To do that, in the context of meditation, we need tools or reminders to bring our mind back to the present.
When Fear Strikes, Return to Your Meditative Mind
What I did on my flight over the (rough and) Rocky Mountains was to bring my mind to a state of peace or stillness. While the plane was bucking and rocking, my mind was relatively peaceful. To do this, I relied on tools that I’ve learned over the years, tools that I’m going to share now in this post.
Here are five tools or tips that you can use when you’re feeling taken over by thoughts and emotions. While there’s no guarantee that they’ll work every time, if you practice them, and if you’ve spent some time working on your meditation practice, there’s a good chance that they’ll be able to help you in times of fear or stress.
- (this is what you need to do before you find yourself in frightening circumstances!) Become stable in your meditation practice. That way, when the occasion arises where you’re experiencing fear or fright, you’ll be able to find refuge within your meditative mind rather than in your fearful mind.
- Practice encountering your fears or things that frighten you on a regular basis. Make sure that these practice sessions don’t involve anything that’s too frightening, but do make sure that it’s something that you have fears around, for example…turbulence! Use your imagination, the same one that gets your mind going with frightening thoughts and create an imaginary scenario for yourself.
- Allow yourself to feel fear. Fear in itself is not a bad thing. What limits us or causes problems is when we take our fear as the only possibility in the moment. Knowing your fear allows you to engage with it so instead of ignoring it, check in with yourself when you’re afraid or scared. Where do you go to “hide?” What part(s) of your mind do you stop using.
- When you know that something scary or frightening is about to occur, immediately return your attention to your breathing. Regardless of how much your mind is patterned to return to whatever it is that’s scaring you, bring your mind repeatedly back to your breathing. Just watch your breathing. Don’t try to change it.
- If you unexpectedly find yourself in a situation which causes you fear, immediately bring your attention to the present moment. You may wish to do that by bringing your attention to your breath. You may even want to bring your attention to whatever it is that’s scaring you. For me, during this particular airplane ride, it was about bringing my attention to the rocking motion of the plane and experiencing what the motion and bumpiness felt like in my body without letting my mind drift into what would happen…IF.
- When all else fails, follow this advice. First, just breath. Second, know where you are. Third, know what you’re doing. This means that you’re bringing your awareness back to the present moment, anchoring it in your breathing, your surroundings and your actions.
Meditate Now, Before Fear Takes Over
Obviously, there’s no cure-all, no one-size-fits-all for the experience of fear. We’re going to find ourselves in situations that challenge us to the very core and that leave us wondering where our mind was. But, if we take the time NOW, when we’re not up against our bigger fears and terrors, then when we are confronted by them, we’ll be less likely to succumb to them and lose our mind(fulness) and presence.
Most importantly, practice meditating now when you’re not terrified. Get stable in your meditation practice. Become familiar with your fears. Then, the next time that the pilot announces that there are rough skies ahead, you’ll be able to put your arms up in the air and…enjoy the roller-coaster ride!
How To Meditate
Stay tuned for news about my newest ebook, Meditate Out of the Box! It’s a down-to-earth guide on how to use your everyday life experience as a means to meditate. And it’s coming out soon!
Maybe you’ve already got a meditation practice. If that’s the case, great! Keep it up. And feel free to use all of the content from this site to support you in your efforts. If you haven’t started to meditate, begin now.
Many people don’t meditate because they believe that they need to do “something special” in order to meditate, maybe you’re one of them. “Doing something” special isn’t the case. All you need is your breath, and a few minutes of time set aside to begin your practice. Here are some tools to get you started:
- Meditation audio for using your breath as the anchor of your attention during meditation.
- Ebook and two chapters from the book, Minding the Bedside: Nursing from the Heart of the Awakened Mind, on how to meditate.
- Even though my book was written with nurses in mind, I continue to get feedback from those who have bought it who aren’t nurses that they find it useful in their lives. So, check out the book, Minding the Bedside: Nursing from the Heart of the Awakened Mind. It’s really written for anyone. You can even buy it in a Kindle version!
This site has tons of tools for learning how to meditate.
I encourage you to look through the HUNDREDS of articles that I’ve written and especially check out my weekly meditation tips and other useful meditation materials provided for your health and well being. And please let me know if you’d like to discuss anything with me, have any questions or need clarification regarding anything that I’ve written about.
Thanks for visiting and have a mindful day.
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